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As well as being a freelance writer I am also a qualified counsellor and I work for a low cost counselling service in Exeter and for the NHS Gender Clinic also in Exeter.

Simultaneously, I work as a Disability Member of the First Tier Tribunal, Social Entitlement Chamber sitting on disability benefit tribunals on an ad hoc basis.

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Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Is there a perfect non disabled/disabled sibling combination?

I've been trying to work out if there is a perfect combination of siblings when one of them has a disability?

My son Archie has Kniest Syndrome which, put simply, means he will be short statured and will have mobility problems. My younger son Ben doesn't have Kniest.

Now Archie is 3 and Ben is 16 months they are already the same size. Ben is already more agile than Archie and probably physically stronger too.

Archie is starting to notice all this I'm sure and it must be hard for him to watch his younger brother being able to do certain things more easily than he can.

Would it be easier if Archie was younger? I think perhaps yes. I was the youngest of 3 sisters and I don't ever remember comparing myself in the same way as they were obviously going to be more able/better than me at most things - the excuse being they were older.

Does increasing the number of siblings distract further from the direct "competition" of having 1 disabled and 1 non-disabled child? I very much doubt I'll be able to answer that one from personal experience but I'd be interested to know from other people's experience.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

hi, Emma, i was I was the youngest of one brother of 5 years an i have also other brother of 11 years youngest.
The better thing would be that between a disabled brother and one not disable there were sufficient years of distance not to create competition cannot be never known in truth which it is the better thing,