Is there a perfect non disabled/disabled sibling combination?

I've been trying to work out if there is a perfect combination of siblings when one of them has a disability?

My son Archie has Kniest Syndrome which, put simply, means he will be short statured and will have mobility problems. My younger son Ben doesn't have Kniest.

Now Archie is 3 and Ben is 16 months they are already the same size. Ben is already more agile than Archie and probably physically stronger too.

Archie is starting to notice all this I'm sure and it must be hard for him to watch his younger brother being able to do certain things more easily than he can.

Would it be easier if Archie was younger? I think perhaps yes. I was the youngest of 3 sisters and I don't ever remember comparing myself in the same way as they were obviously going to be more able/better than me at most things - the excuse being they were older.

Does increasing the number of siblings distract further from the direct "competition" of having 1 disabled and 1 non-disabled child? I very much doubt I'll be able to answer that one from personal experience but I'd be interested to know from other people's experience.

Writing and more writing/parenting a disabled child

Haven't posted for over a week mainly because I've been busy researching various writing commissions. The thing I love about writing is the variety, even though I've chosen to specialise writing about disability there is still a whole lifestyle to explore within that - one minute I'm writing about disabled parents or schooling for a disabled child, the next minute it's public transport, Thalidomide, Aspergers or reviewing a book!

More recently some of my commissions have meant exploring the world of parents of disabled children, there's some overlap in experience of course but it is a whole new perspective.

I also belong to this world being the parent of a disabled child and it's now that I can really start to appreciate what a tough job it is.

What I haven't worked out is - is it tougher for me being the parent of a disabled child having passed on my disability or tougher for someone having a baby who has a disability who's never ever encountered disability before then?

Looking Up book review for disability now

Another of my book reviews has just gone up on the Disability Now website:

http://www.disabilitynow.org.uk/entertainment/arts/book-review/?searchterm=looking%20up

It was quite a refreshing read as the author who broke his back falling out of a tree wasn't one of these spinally injured people who then wanted to conquer Everest, trek across a desert or sail round the world, he just wanted to get some sort of life back....

Rough Guide to Accessible Britain review published on BBC OUCH!

My review for the Rough Guide to Accessible Britain went up on the BBC OUCH! website today, I've done a few book reviews recently and quite enjoy them especially if I would have read the book anyway!:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/ouch/features/rough_guide_review.shtml

Disability Now article on BBC Three's series in the making - "Britain's Missing Top Model"

Here's my latest article published on Disability Now website and in April's edition of the magazine:

http://www.disabilitynow.org.uk/latest-news2/media-watch-section-test/ground-breaking-or-car-crash-tv

The series hasn't even been made yet but is already causing quite a stir....